Today’s libido lesson: keeping it clean. I don’t mean you should feel bad about getting dirty, but keeping up with chores is a proven way to ramp up your desires. Here’s why.
Confidence of cleanliness. If you’re single or dating, taking a man back to your room can be quite dramatic. As you tensely turn the doorknob, you may furtively cross your fingers and pray there aren’t Spanx and granny panties overflowing from the laundry basket. Lipstick-stained coffee cups or evidence of a late night drive-thru run won’t only embarrass you, but they can cut down your confidence as well. Conversely, imagine the passionate promise of a room fragrant with fresh linens and Madagascar vanilla candles. It could be the difference between a red face and total ecstasy.
Mental blocks. Psychology overwhelmingly notes a woman’s tendency to get distracted. “We do know that women, more so than men, are prone to cognitive distractions—thinking of other things in ways that interfere with sex,” says Debby Herbenick, PhD and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction. A messy room contains all kinds of mental and emotional commotion that can derail libido. We tend to see a mess as evidence of all the things we haven’t done and as a result, our minds wander, sometimes beyond the point of return.
Lost bedroom time. The more hours you clock in the bedroom, the more likely you are to enjoy the splendors of the bed. While we don’t suggest wasting time cat napping or living like a shut-in, the more you and your partner want to be in your bed, the more opportunities there are for foreplay. Simple tasks like making your bed daily and washing sheets often will draw you deep beneath the covers.